The Wannabe Craftster

The Highs and Lows of a Fashionista and Craftster Wannabe

Back When I Was Pretty and Other More Important Observations

Visited Sissie this weekend and had a marvelous time.    She took me out to eat and out shopping–all her treat.  We were talking about sewing and decorating.  She has made her apartment look like something fit for a design magazine with mostly items from Big Lots.   That’s right.  You read correctly.  She makes everything look beautiful.  I don’t think I saw one thing she made herself or even painted.  Very unusual.  BUT, she’s got a much more demanding job now and is enjoying some instant gratification here and there.

Shopping for clothes!  Yes!  We went to Ross and a few other places that had super-cute blouses (because I just can’t find pants to fit anymore) at ridiculous prices.  She was thinking that sewing to save money is an idea long past, and I had to agree.  I want to sew for the fun of it and the control of design and fabric.  Problem–when you’ve gained a good bit of weight, it’s much harder to find clothes that fit and look nice.  So, discovering that a finished piece of your own sewing just doesn’t fit the bill, then what?  Tears?

Sissie turned  me on to I Can Make You Thin’s Paul McKenna.  Now, this is the same Sissie who “encouraged” me many years ago to join Weight Watchers.  I blew her off for at least a year.  But, when I finally went to Weight Watchers, I lost 20 pounds and stayed skinny for years.  So, although I was skeptical of Paul McKenna, I watched.  Well, she also told me to watch, so I was scared not to.  It’s a sister thing.

Well, I watched two of his videos that she had recorded, and I have to say…it makes sense.  It makes a whole lotta sense.  And, frankly?  After listening  with a semi-open mind, I’m not thinking about my day in terms of food and how to fit my day around eating.  Part of his technique is something like aversion therapy.  He asked people to imagine some gross things associated with food.  What yucks most people out doesn’t do much for me, but to tell you what I pictured might make you never want to eat again.  For those of you who are curious, I may reveal my image in another post.  But, boy, it is super-sick.

What does this have to do with the title of my post?  Back when I was thin and took a great deal more pride in my appearance…..let’s just say it–BEFORE CHILDREN…..I remember reminding myself to pull back from the table and leave food on my plate.  I actually did.  Now that I’ve let my weight stay on for so long, I’ve forgotten the mind-set.  While Sissie and I were out, we saw a couple of ladies behind us with their children.  They absolutely defined CUTE.  Darling.  And, they were all slim and well-dressed.  Hard not to sigh and think of yesteryear, you know?  One of the women was wearing a printed blouse with a rather unique though not unfamiliar trim, and I couldn’t help pointing it out to Sissie.

Today, I’m back at home in front of my computer perusing my favorite sewing blogs and what do I find?  The same trim on a little girl’s dress.  The red pom poms.  Ta da.

But, it was the post that stopped me in my tracks today.  The author’s mother is in ICU and not doing well at all.  Judging from the number of people who responded, it shook more than a few other people up as well.  It certainly put things in perspective for me.  My own mother called me just a little while ago to see how I was doing.  She, herself, has been very ill for a while now.  I’ve never thought crafting or pretty clothes were frivolous any more than images of nature that please the eye, but I am always aware, especially on days like today, that beauty doesn’t exist in a vacuum.   It is ever-present in the people we see it in and the people we share it with.

I truly hope Jennifer’s mother recovers, and I am so thankful that my own mother was able to call me today and laugh about my children’s latest shenanigans.  She may not know it or believe it, but she is truly beautiful.


August 23, 2008 - Posted by | inspiration, sister | , , , , ,


  1. What a sweet blog. Listen, you are still pretty. I mean that, and I’m sure David says the same thing. That’s a great photo of you and boys. You should put it on your myspace too. The dress is adorable – love it! Finally, I hope the blogger’s mother is ok.

    Comment by Sonia | August 24, 2008 | Reply

  2. Pshaw. The boys–Alex is the one with the curls, and the other one is my great nephew, Austin. I rarely see him, I’m sorry to say.

    I hope the blogger’s mother is okay, too. What a sweet person to find something pretty to put on her blog for everyone else to see when there’s so much going on. I thought it was a poignant coincidence, if there are such things.

    Comment by odumnobles | August 24, 2008 | Reply

  3. I’m sure that David sees you just as he did when the two of you first got together, but either way, you are definitely still pretty. I do commisserate (sp?) with you on the weight thing–I have about 15-20 lbs that I have just not been disciplined enough or concerned about enough to lose. I have really tried to walk consistently and watch portions and all that, but obviously there’s something I’m not doing right ;).

    Comment by melissa | August 25, 2008 | Reply

  4. Oh, thank you so much for that, Melissa. BUT, I’ve seen a skinny mom on Elijah’s Myspace! LOL Such a lovely family.

    Comment by odumnobles | August 26, 2008 | Reply

  5. I want to chime in and say that I have an extra 10 or 15 pounds post-pregnancy too. Darn it! I swore it wouldn’t happen. It’s not as though I can’t figure out what I’m doing wrong either … ha ha

    Comment by Sonia | August 26, 2008 | Reply

  6. May I just add that Houston has WAY too many donut shops….

    Comment by Sonia | August 26, 2008 | Reply

  7. Consarn, we’ve got TWO close to us!

    Comment by odumnobles | August 26, 2008 | Reply

  8. Meg, we are surrounded by donut/doughnut shops here. I’d love to have an exact number. There’s a reason we are one of the fattest cities. 🙂

    Comment by Sonia | August 29, 2008 | Reply

  9. Just did a quick search. There are 9 shops in less than 2 miles from our house. 210 shops came up on Yahoo – 17 pages of donut shops! I doubt that accounts for all of them. Really.

    Comment by Sonia | August 29, 2008 | Reply

  10. Woaaaaaaaaaaaaaa, who is eating all those donuts?

    Comment by odumnobles | August 30, 2008 | Reply

  11. I think it might be Pat and me. ha ha ha ha

    Comment by Sonia | September 2, 2008 | Reply

  12. People, has it taken you this long to notice the overwhelming, overabundance of corner donut shops in Texas? They are EVERYWHERE. It was one of the first things that I noticed and one of the first things my brother noticed when he moved to Houston. Not only are there donut shops everywhere, I have it on good word (conspiracy researching husband) that all the donut shops are Vietnamese owned and that there is a Vietnamese donut MAFIA (he says there was an article in the Dallas Observer or NY Times or both…I don’t pay THAT much attention to his rambling… . Personally, I could care less who’s manufacturing my donut or kolache, as long as it is tasty and made with love.

    I really wonder how MS consistently comes in at #1 fattest state, when Texas has to have more donut shops per capita than any place on earth. Mysterious.

    We hit our down the street donut shop once a month and hit the Czech Stop in West, Texas each and every time we are traveling 35 N or S. Mighty fine stuff!

    Comment by Angela | September 9, 2008 | Reply

  13. Huh! Guess I never noticed donut shops so much before!

    Comment by odumnobles | September 13, 2008 | Reply

  14. I am so with you on this. It’s hard. I struggle daily with body image and eating. WW works great when you follow the program. The sad thing – eating is not an addiction you can give up! I have been working out like a fiend for the last 6 weeks – weight training and cardio and I’m exactly where I started. So, I continue to plod on – at least I’m not going up. Baby steps, it’s all about the baby steps. You can do it!

    As for going out and looking well put together – make skirts. Seriously – they are easy (I promise – email me and I’ll talk you off the ledge) and always look great. Throw on a tee and some cute shoes and you’re well put together wherever you go. You can do this! g

    Comment by gaylen | September 16, 2008 | Reply

  15. Gaylen, I will definitely study on the skirt situation. I always wore them when I was thin but have been hanging out in the I-give-up-I’m-an-overweight-mom clothes. I know, it’s terrible. Thank you so much for the encouragement.

    Comment by odumnobles | September 18, 2008 | Reply

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